We are human. We seek security and comfort, and above all we seek food. The fundamental question of human beings… “when will I eat?” has been almost magically converted into “what will I eat?”. One of the problems that we face with overeating, is that we have engineered our environment to never go hungry. Food abundance has ensured that whenever we even think about being hungry, we eliminate that sensation with a snack that is within arms reach. Over time, and because of our exposure to constant food availability, we have learned to eat whenever we get the slightest feeling of hunger instead of eating when we need to eat.
Being hungry does not mean that you have to eat immediately. It does not mean that you are going to starve if you don’t eat within the next half hour. But that is how we act. We say that unless we get something to eat that we simply can’t function. We have almost become afraid of the sensation of hunger, with food being our saviour. But this was not always the case.
Most people cannot tolerate being hungry, because they have trained themselves to be that way. Hunger is a natural process. It was not designed to paralyze you. Hunger does not mean that you must stop everything immediately, and find food. But for many people it does. Hunger is a healthy reminder that you will probably have to eat something pretty soon or later on in the day. If you didn’t get hungry you wouldn’t eat that much. But you don’t have to eat every time you feel hungry.
If you eat every time you feel hungry then you give your brain a flawless strategy to get you to eat whenever it wants. Remember your brain loves sugar, fat and calories and it doesn’t care what you look like naked. It is you, or your “consciousness” that refrains from gorging on cookies all day. Deep down however, some of your other brain structures are signaling you to give in to those urges. And the way that these structures get you to eat those delicious treats is to make you slightly hungry, just enough to get you to indulge.
Think about it. When are the most common times when you snack on little treats? For most people it is in between meals – the midmorning snack, or the mid-afternoon sugar lift. Others enjoy snacking when they are preparing meals, or when they have to wait for their meal to be ready. For other people they just have to eat the minute they come home from work. At all of these times your not really hungry, you are JUST HUNGRY ENOUGH.
That’s all you brain needs, it just needs to give you the right stimulus to get you to eat that bag of chips. For most of us that means just a little bit hungry, or a little “pickish”. But have you ever felt that urge to eat, then you forgot about it and 10 minutes later you realized that you were not even hungry anymore? Congratulations, you have just practiced some hunger tolerance.
In order to stop your incessant snacking, you need to re-learn to become comfortable with being just a little bit hungry. At first it may be a bit uncomfortable, but that is only because you have trained yourself to be that way. You have trained yourself to always eat when you feel a certain cue from your stomach (brain!). When you practice slight hunger tolerance you will quickly learn that you do not have to always eat when you feel hungry, and the sensation will often go away.
Think of it this way. Hunger is like a conversation that your stomach is having with your brain. Your stomach may be temporarily empty but that doesn’t mean you are starving or even that your body needs fuel at the moment. Your stomach is like a small child that hasn’t learned the meaning of later or patience. But your stomach can be trained to wait just a little while and food will be available. You can learn to notice signals of hunger and defer the desire to eat immediately. The critical point to understand is that this takes PRACTICE not just understanding. So don’t let your tummy throw a tantrum! Your mindful brain is wiser and capable of exerting executive control. Before too long being a little bit hungry will be a cue from your body and not a command. After all we don’t immediately put on pajamas and go to bed every time we feel sleepy!
Practice patience and your hunger pangs can be dealt with appropriately. Over time the screaming and crying will turn into a polite request and save you from diving head first into the nearest cookie jar.
